a meaningful life
MARRIAGE
The Devil does not fool us by advertising calamity, He takes blessings and labels them a Burden and we make a fool of ourselves.
Mon.April.22.2024 - Ubochi Afor
In the modern era, the world "has" gone mad but you don't have to.
In the way the world attacks marriage you would think that new discoveries have been made that show comprehensively that humans who are married lead worse lives than those who "play" alone.
What does marriage have to do with "A Meaningful Life" - nothing. You can have a completely meaningful life without marriage, after marriage and in marriage but I suspect that like other wonderful inventions, the inventor of marriage was a "genius" and those who tamper with it now are merely jealous "lab" scientists who find themselves unable to develop a better model and now seek relevance by belittling the "wizardry" of one of the greatest inventions of our fathers.
FOR MEN
Marriage offers a complete confidence in paternity, that no other platform can. This paternity is at the core of masculine investments in society, which is highly hinged on the ability of blood offspring to inherit our life's work.
FOR WOMEN
Marriage offers a complete confidence in the security of their offspring. It allows protections from the harms and helplessness of the period of pregnancy with its attendant demands that no pregnant woman can provide for and by herself. This extends to the protection of the children as they grow, such that she can live to see her kids "live well" in a world that is vicious to anything that is "not" its own.
OWNERSHIP
Oddly enough, the modern attackers of marriage argue over the concept of a man owning a woman. This is at odds with the general logic of human existence as no one protects that which he does not own - with his life. And no one serves a master whose control is negotiable, making modern marriage uselessly unstable.
Marriage is at its ideal state slavery, albeit a slavery one intentionally and willfully submits to and one in which the slave is master over everything the Master owns and the master - master only over the slave.
Please if you disagree, kindly do so after you have read the whole article. I do not write to please modern cancel culture, I write to educate, edify and equip those who subscribe to my wisdoms of the world as it should be.
A wife is in the best instance a willing slave and a husband is in the best instance a concenting master. It is a game of two dogs playing with one ontop. This is the best instance.
To be achieved it requires 2 good souls. This because if a wife becomes a slave to an abuser, she will resemble a rag in the end, yet if a wife becomes a slave to a good man, he will make sure to wash her tears and dry her fears Every time that she starts to feel used. And by the way, use is the idea, it is abuse that is not proper.
In the inverse, if a Husband hands the reigns of his house to a wife that is bad, she will ruin the house, the holdings, the children and herself, ending up yet a rag doll in the hands of other men, parents, society or her vices, if he hands over his house to a good wife, she will yield order, form and care and return to him a better house, secure holdings, respectable children and a Wife that is a point of conquest over all others and a natural advantage in life.
Absent ownership a Wife's freedoms consume her piety and a Husband's submissions consume his conquering spirit.
These may make for a home in partnership but it cannot add to "A Meaningful Life" because everyday we watch the stories of those who practice this "partnership", end in sorrows, tears and blood as partnerships end in equity divisions or court contests, but ownership is for life.
The words "My Son" signals possession and yet love, how is it that you have allowed people to convince you that the possession in "My Wife" is in anyway a diminishing contribution to your meaningful life.
In the right context it adds because men who "are good" and know that you are irrevocably theirs form the greatest allies to "a Meaningful Life" and can support any dreams more easily and with the knowledge that your Towers will always bow to your Master.
The oddity is in looking for someone who will support your dreams and give you freedom and help you win all while knowing that all of what you are doing will be for you and can be Ceded at any time to another Man.
Equally so, "a good woman" will bury her ambitions, to order your achievements and never fret because she knows that however high the mountains you build, no one else will stand closer to the top that her.
Is this not a simpler route to "A Meaningful Life" than internal competition, random relationship binging, adult celibacy, homo erotic transmutations of sexuality and all the other nonsenses we now create to fill the void of not being "owned" by anyone or shall I say "Married". And by the way, most of us who refuse to be owned by a man or cede our house to a woman end up owned by work and ceding our homes to emptiness or part-time wives that do not care to keep a home, after using it.
CHILDREN
Weeks ago I penned an article on the implications of children to "A Meaningful Life" (Read it here).
Marriage is very important for children. Not necessary, not mandatory but preferable, in light of all the vices of the world and the risk of nearby human Wolves devouring your life's work via consumption or corruption.
Men and Women offset completely different needs for children. Whether you like it or not, are as stated or not, men are better at provision and protection and women are better at tending to emotional supports and providing general care.
If children are a component of "A Meaningful Life" and marriage is the best platform for the creation, nurture and safeguard of children. It is quite clear that marriage is an ideal component of "A Meaningful Life". This does not mean that children born out of wedlock or those born to single parents are a bad thing. But the word ideal describes a "singular" situation that is best for the given notion and children's ideal platform is a loving relationship, encapsulated in a marriage of 2 committed parents who "live" together.
Outside of this you can work extraordinarily hard to provide their duality of needs and may well succeed but this is rare, nearly impossible and if achieved, a miraculous event. Of course if 2 people are not married but have children together, love each other, are fully committed to the children and live together or in extreme proximity to each other, marriage is not in anyway necessary.
The value of marriage is that it encourages the actions stated above.
UNITY (UNIT OF 2 OR MORE)
If both the mother and father of a young Pelican is absent to hunt, other Pelicans will eat their young. True Story.
I would like you to imagine the word unity as 1 unit made up of 2 or more components.
I am an advocate of willful Monogamy only, Were it is not a chosen path for the man and woman, I become an advocate for agreed Polygamy.
I do not advocate 1 woman marrying multiple men, 1. because I am a man and want my tribe to win (just kidding).
In truth, Biology and nature form our most obvious landlords on earth, they set life rules clearly and those who disregard it by emotion or contention, can never enjoy their time in the house.
Biologically, a man produces Spermatozoa all the time and is designed for maximum Insemination. This design calls for multiple partners, whether you like it or not.
Biologically, a woman produces a measured number of eggs and has a restrictive number of years for productivity. This design calls for the best partner or a limited range of great partners, whether you like it or not.
The implications for a man is that any restriction to a single woman is an unnatural request which can be fulfilled but at great cost. The implications for a woman is that any restrictions to an impotent or low value man is an unnatural request which can be fulfilled, at great loss.
As such the choice to marry or not, volumes and breed, divorce for option 2 etcetera, are natural human considerations that are a fitting and crucial component of "A Meaningful Life". It is important to evaluate if to marry, who to marry, when to stay, if to add and if to manage, in line with your peculiar design and general interests in life.
For example, a man who desires a 20 child family cannot be expected to marry one woman and while women will be angry that I even attempt to justify this, the raw naked truth is that he can achieve it, biologically, as such if it is part of his "Meaningful Life", the woman who negates it becomes a hindrance to his ability to achieve human satisfaction.
Women who may be jealous must contend with the reality that it is nearly impossible to birth 20 children and therefore the desire for 5 Husbands is an unnatural need for a woman. This said if a woman whose life course calls for 5 children marries a man who becomes impotent at 2, I find it hard pressed to insist that she remain with him or are restrained from birthing more by agreed innovation.
While this may not bode well for men, in truth nature dictates need and needs when unsatiated become a drag on "A Meaningful Life", whether you are male or female.
When all of these Kinks are ironed out, the beauty of marriage arrives - unity. Whether monogamy or polygamy or any configurations whatsoever, marriage creates a family and that unitary combination creates a force of nature that in its ideal forms enable us the support, confidence and grace to achieve "A Meaningful Life".
For example, a man who by design is ment to be a King, when aided by a strong, competent and loyal wife gains the ability to campaign without concern for happenings at home. Equally a Wife who is designed to be a Vice Chancellor, when aided by a strong, competent and committed husband, moves with boldness in her agenda in the university.
Note that for the Man I suggested a Loyal wife, but for the Woman I suggested a committed husband. This is because we all need different things and for the most loyalty is not a trait to be expected from a man, we stray beyond the territory by nature and commitment is not a need from a Woman, they are ruled by waves of emotions by nature.
We are we and thee are thee and that is part of the beauty of life. A unity of which is a solid base of support for our journey to "A Meaningful Life".
In fact Wives and Husbands are nearly equal to children in their proximity of need, as aspects of "A Meaningful Life", children only beat them out as the only way, confirmed by man to achieve everlasting life.
DIGNITY
Man is a social animal and not matter your economic success, scientific innovations and other "Meaningful" achievements, we all still reference our lives in measured evaluations of our neighbors, family and friends.
Like it or not, marriage is a weighing scale and no matter the gradual decline of modern interest it still matters.
1st it is key to understand that most of the reasons people give for abhorring Marriage is dignity.
Many Women claim divorce based on emotional abuse, neglect and the existence of another woman, all of which find themselves in self worth and are aided by a modern world in which both parties work and wealth can be stripped in a divorce, allowing one to maintain a "secure" live outside of marriage without tolerating all of the "disrespect". The Devil sure knows how to decieve.
Oddly enough a high level of modern divorce is initiated by the actions of the Woman in court or in the home, aided by a legal system and social order that has made Divorce and Singlehood a "Dignified" option. Smart Devil.
For Men, emasculations by women they "married with their own money", disrespects in the home and public inability to match their status, form the highest reasons and basis for replacing a woman. Smart Devil.
Note that for Men I said, replacing, because while options may be on the table, it is unfair to attempt to replace a Woman, as if she wasn't worth the place, you shouldn't have given it in the 1st place, because it is one thing to have a 2nd or 3rd companion and quite a completely different and undignified thing to be rendered inconsequential.
In either case, the reasons for divorce and single life, clearly show that marriage is a Dignifying event and should be a component of "A Meaningful Life" because a life of meaning should also be a life in which you can look at yourself and smile about what you are and have.
CREATION
A Meaningful Life is all about creation. It is about the things that you make out of the existence that you have, adding to the world that you were giving, often multiplying exponentially, a nightmarish Beginning in order to flip the math into a wonderful story of conquest.
Children are the greatest and most divine creations of a human life, Family is their best shelter and Marriage is one of the most innovative tools to ensure that this component of your "Meaningful Life" is secure.
Why would you not want that?
Furthermore, the story of life is best told with a companion to narrate the moments, remind you of missing parts, eco your thrill at specific moments and share in the humor of an often nightmarish script that by dint of hard work, sheer luck and the grace of God has become "A Meaningful Life".
Why would you not want that?
Take your time, keep your eyes open, follow your heart and find the person who can help you on their journey and commit also to helping them, so that in the end the both of your can create a beautiful Marriage, a wonderful life and Children raised in love.
If this is not part of "A Meaningful Life", it must be at least a nice rest stop that you can breese into as you work to make this life, all you think it should be.
If someone has convinced you that marriage is not necessary for "A Meaningful Life", they has told you at best, a white lie, a half truth, A stupid joke because while I also agree that you can have "A Meaningful Life" without it. Why would you want to?
AML - SERIES PROFILE
A MEANINGFUL LIFE
the "A MEANINGFUL LIFE" series is a non Religious, Non Enterprise look at life and meaning, written with the hope of getting you to a life of pure Joy, real Happiness and Satisfaction with your own life, regardless of your faith and economic profile.
It does not intend to preach, but where necessary it will. At the end, the desired result is that from this series you will pick up the tools to give your life greater meaning, and live a more satisfying existence.
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