a meaningful life series
what is a meaningful LIFE?, why live it?
What if you get everything you want, just to discover that you sold all the things you need?
Mon.Dec.4.2023 - Ubochi Afor
What is the point of all the work, if after the war, you hate the land you fought for?
I think far too many people live and die without ever living at all. The word living is a verb and describes an active pursuit. Life is a given, living is a choice. An active choice. A rebellious choice. A choice between living and merely having existed.
It is the natural design, but wild in its expression in a world of people who have "chosen" to be "civilized". In such settings the natural design has become the alternative as the human animal has become a machine, working at the service of other "Senior" men, whose lives find meaning, in "demeaning" others. I have come that the African "might have life, and life it in abundance - A true expression of human self actualization, living and not merely existing".
When a man Gandhis, Mandelas, Edisons, Adenugas, it is no accident but a consequence of choices, both good and bad. In the end some even at the highest points of "worldly" success, find their lives empty and shoot their brains out like George Eastman (founder of Kodak).
Meaning has nothing to do with national, enterprise or social acclaim. A Meaningful Life Is A Context To Life, Not A Record Of Life. A Meaningful Life Is A Life Lived In The Context Of Satisfaction, Accomplishment And Impact.
A Life Of Meaning is not measured in volume, popularity or notoriety but in joy, happiness and the simple present to yourself and others of being "present".
PRESENT
What would be the point of being born for yourself?
PRESENT The word present means many things. 1. Is to present, a gift or item to someone and the 2nd is to be "present". I am talking about both.
Until your life is a present to the people that share it with you, it will never have meaning.
And for your life to be a present. YOU MUST BE PRESENT.
Presence requires an active evaluation of yourself, your people and your world. With this presence you can more carefully CHOOSE your place in cognizance of DESTINY.
My people call it "Akara Aka", which can be translated to mean "Destined to Be" , in literal translation it means "Marked" or "Agreed".
In essense, there is a grand design for your existence that has been agreed to by nature, with God is designed for Man and creation.
Understand that sentence, God = Designer, Nature = Enforcer and Man, Animals and all of existence is the reason for all the work, that is in you.
One of my Elders, Former Governor Chimaroke Nnamani once told me something I will never forget and to which I disagreed with him directly, he said something in the order of "life is a circumventious perambulation and then you die, but if you are lucky, you achieve your manifest destiny".
I disagree, destiny is guaranteed and equally the meaningless life that is the consequence of ignoring or forsaking it, whether out of fear, willful disregard or the idiotic imagination that you are wiser than your maker.
Destiny does not require luck, Living a Meaningful life, is a codified and signed agreement with nature that is enforceable by God.
Be present, so that your experiences are not a chore or a bore but a tour of the realities of life and a guide to the solution that is in you, for the few or many people that God chooses, to be your people.
As a present, you are a blessing and designed not in anyway for "yourself" but are in fact designed with the entire and complete purpose of "blessing" others.
Think about it for a moment, why is it that your sex organs derive the best pleasure, only when you sex others and not through masturbation? Why is it that you can only lift 200Ibs but when helping someone else, the two of you can lift 500Ibs? Why is it that a tree cannot shade itself?
In all things, all things, are created for the benefit of other things.
Birds pollinate trees, Trees offer them nests, Trees shade the weed, the weed feeds the Sheep, that peas along the tree and gives the Birds a seed.
The cycle of life is a grand design. It is designed for you. It is also bigger than you. Don't fight it, you're a present and until you let yourself be a "gift", this world won't let you breathe. Life itself depends on you making it meaningful for others and Receiving a "meaning of you".
HAPPINESS
Would you rather be the owner of the house and sad or serve and be happy?
The word happiness is terribly misunderstood. I can speak on it, because I have experienced it consistently for 20 years now, in spite of some experiences that are better read than lived.
Happiness is often associated with things or events that give Exstacy. But it is not that, it is not a momentary or conditional issue - it is a "status", a state of being, a level.
For 20 years and by the grace of God, I have never been unhappy.
I have been ashamed, angry, sickened, or, confused but I have never been "unhappy".
I am confident, from experience, that unhappiness is unnatural, man is designed to be happy as a default mode, sadness is what takes effort and is a ridicule of design, although now and for many people, it seems to be the default setting. This is because the modern man has eaten the fruit of wickedness and is living outside of the internal kindness that kindles the spirit from within and as a result, most of our lives are more a chore than the "blessing" it is by design.
Happiness, is the single most important reason why you want to live a Meaningful life. It is the best Justification for the many seeming "sacrifices" that a Meaningful Life calls for. Put in perspective, walking in the opposite direction of most of humanity is not really a sacrifice, because studied well, the majority of the world is walking with confidence, into flames.
A grand majority of the human population can claim Joys and Pains, but not happiness. What Joy is to salary, Happiness is to wealth. It is a status, you achieve it and its scent sticks to you, you walk it, talk it, live it, even inside a cell. A King does not stop being a King even when he is stark naked in the middle of Tripoli on orders of the American empire, even in death, the meaning of a life of meaning is never lost. (Reference is in honor of Muammar Gaddafi).
I have been happy in the midst of a lack of liberty, love, funds, the very things that seem elemental to life itself.
I believe the reason for this to be that even when in the confines of those lacks, my "charity" and consequent clarity on destiny, and faith in its non-Voidability, keeps the momentary discomforts domiciled in the realm of mere distractions and the spirit is able to maintain its "status", unbothered.
Happiness is like a well that Emanates from within and pours out year round in spite of the season. In the midst of tough times It is dampened but still provides sustenance, and in the midst of joy, it is elevated, busting out showers that spread the joy for a lifetime.
A meaningful life is a happy life, amidst storms and trials, if you have found "a reason" to live, that reason will encourage you and since "nature" will not allow the world to stop your destiny, the hope alone, in-spite of what ever present conditions you are experiencing, will ensure that you will be okay, inside - Status, not feeling. A King, knows who he is, "Status" even when he is homeless, and he can never suffer the same dejections as those who are nobody now, with no hope of being anybody Tomorrow.
Happiness is a state of mind. A level of human Elevation, that once attained is not threatened by the world around you and you "cannot" reach that high without living a life of meaning.
JOY
What is you played everybody in your life, but the joke was on you?
When you sex the right person, in the right way, you gain both the joy of their satisfaction and the joy of your own release, 2 joys for the price of 1.
if you choose the way of the world and f**k, you will Receive pleasure but not Joy. and yes there is a wide gapping difference between the two - Joy can only come as an "earned" reward. More than an emotion, it is a vibration, a signal, a confirmation in nature of righteousness.
Note that this article is written for the "A Meaningful Life" series and is in no way religious. However the truths of life sound spiritual, even when they are about muscle building in a gym, because we are all spirits and function first in our divine nature before the mind and the body. Neglect of this divine nature leads to a meaningless Perambulation on the earth, guided by the whims of the mind and the Desires of the Body, achieving rewards that can be seem but no Joy in the spirit, or happiness either, because in attending to our body and mind, we often fail to represent our spirit.
If you chose the way of the world, you will raise kids to retain "your" name and make "you" proud and "serve" as a retirement and insurance package. This is a civilized thing to do and can be done effectively, with much wickedness and limitations on their natural spirit of adventure. In most cases you will fail and they will hate you.
You cannot "earn" your benefits of a righteous does of Joy, from stealing joy from others.
A meaningful life is a life filled with joys. The joys you give out and the ones that make the trip around the world to come back to you.
If you raise your kids, focused on being the best father or mother. Gifting them your time on earth and raising them to be strong, effective members of society, with the tools to thrive in this life. They will grow in joy and live up to the inverse of the saying "you can't give what you don't have".
Children who have joy, will give joy. They will retain "your" name as a natural extension of themselves and a history to be proud of, standing on your record of joy. They will make you proud, because in their organic pursuits of personal destiny, God has already codified aspects of them, that are designed for you and if left untampered will manifest without discourse. They will serve as your retirement because they would have learned from you how to live a meaningful life by being a present and as you were a present for and to them, they will be a present and present for you.
This is God's design, the natural sequence of a meaningful, that we often interrupt in our "civilization".
WHAT IS A MEANINGFUL LIFE
Nelson Mandela smiles as he visits the cell in which he spent the greater part of 27 years. It is funny but Mandela smiled more often than most of the thieves now trying to ruin Africa - who won?
A meaningful life, is a life that you "happen to" , not a life that happens to you.
A meaningful life is the subjugation of your experiences in life to your destiny. It is the choices you make while "awake", to take only the paths that are yours, regardless of how dark the road appears, recognizing that the lit road will have ease but not grace and is likely to lead to a life in which you please a master, that is not God or yourself.
A meaningful life is the only life worth living and infact is the ultimate definition of living.
We all get life, what you do with it, is where it finds its meaning and without meaning it is effectively "meaningless" - why the f**k would you want to do that?
A life without meaning will course every pain through your veins with the violence of thorns and still dampen every joy, with the lucidity of confusion and loss of the "value" which only meaning can infuse.
A life with meaning will dampen every pain with the injection of the morphine of human hope and still elevate every joy with the clarity of passion, love and the reference of each moment of joy into the record of your impact on the world around you.
Note, that I focus on joy not ecstasy or euphoria. Joy is a synchronized response of the world to "positive" stimuli. You give it, you get it. It cannot be paid for and does not come in a pill, but is a direct seed of the human experience, that aligns with your natural direction, appearing along the way to cheer you on.
Note that Joy is not happiness. Joy comes and goes, happiness remains and in all of this you must be present and a present, tool but not a fool.
USE NOT ABUSE
For those of us who serve the public, often family and friends forget your greater "value" and try to modify you for home or office use - in all instances, any use other than your "design" is abuse.
A meaningful life of usefulness for the world around you, does not imply a tolerance for abuse. In fact it is the ultimate rebellion against being used in "any other ways" than was intended in your design.
I often wonder how rebellious persons arrive at the logic that a practice of abuse is a remedy for abuse.
Stay with me for a moment and you will get where I am going.
The person who chooses a life of meaning, chooses to be of "use". They function to be "instrumental" and agree to be of use but never tolerate nor engage in abuse.
Often you will find rebellious spirits who after being in a relationship with a cheat, now engage in cheating 1st. Often the beaten child, grows to beat his children. Often the slave, buys him "some".
A life of meaning requires that you resist abuse forwarded to you and more vehemently reject the notion that the only recompense is abuse by you. Life will try to change you and to ensure meaning, you must stay on course and be useful all the time, for whatever it is you were made and Useless all the time for EVERYTHING else.
The life of meaning when cheated on, will move on to love even more, expecting that God's design is not flawed and the one who deserves such love will come, and they will. The beaten child, takes time to tell his children bed time stories, understanding that if they also learn the meaning of life, they will choose to live well and they will. The slave frees himself and spends a lifetime freeing others and in the end his joy is complete and his life is filled with a depth of meaning that swallows the years in which he was enslaved and in fact rewrites the story to show that his subjugation was in fact merely a pathway to greatness.
When you are focused on meaning, you can never be demeaned, nor will you care to demean others.
Stay useful and your life will be filled with
joys. These joys will come under attack but
you must be steadfast and come out of
the journey with your status as a present
intact, spreading happiness as a default mode.
WHAT IS THE POINT OF LIVING, IF IT HAS NO MEANING
What is the gain in acquiring the things you think will make you happy, yet being sad all the time?
as the world has developed, false Leaders have come with an intention to subjugate and not enhance, and have led us into a world of false education, social orders and political machinations that coupled with the intentional propaganda of Selfish commerical entities keeps teaching you that you need, just about everything but the very things you actually need.
So let us imagine that you follow their Guidance, limiting your educational pursuits to medicine because they claim that it is the highest calling. Now that you are a Doctor, are you okay? In your quite time, do you have Joy?, or would you have been happier playing Football in the junior leagues? Well then, if "success" doesn't pay in joy, what is the point.
In the world of Consumerism, they have Taught you that "diamonds are a girls best friend", well, now that you are 2 years into the marriage with the man who can buy Diamonds and have forsaken the one who loved you, do the Diamonds, cheer you up in the morning, when you are crying over your life?. Worse still, what if, just by loving him, you could have gotten the love of your life the boost to grow and buy the diamonds.
In a world that elevates Power, what is the point of being a Senator, when you do not like debate? A preacher when you do not like people? A Professor when you hate teaching? Anything other than the very thing that you are, is not success, it is slavery - a meaningless life.
The essence of living, is to be found in the Joy of being on the right track, the Happiness that comes with an alignment with destiny and can only be achieved, when you are present and a present, to the world and people around you.
Now what if you choose to live for yourself and in the process, you do very well by all the measures of human consumerism but have no joy, what in "hell" is the meaning of that?
Find your place, in the life of the world, where you can serve and still be master. A present, that Receives the greatest gifts of life, Joy, Happiness and the presents that are earned, when others, do like you, to you.
A life of meaning is a life of value. Why would you want to live a life that is not valuable?
Kids that are not yours, someone elses wife, exiled in another mans country, Gold watches, fast cars, success in bedding all the girls in your entire school, yet unable to sustain a smile in the darkness of Night, this is the definition of Buffoonery.
What if I told you that the slave had a better life than the master, which would you choose?
Those who want a life of meaning, choose the meaning and ignore the facade presentations of the world, that claim any value, from a life of selfish perambulation, that acquires a chest full of the treasures of want and yet does not acquire the human beings most innate "need" - to be "Useful".
What is a meaningful life - Living according to design.
Why live it? - Because anything other than, is really f**king crazy.
AML - SERIES PROFILE
A MEANINGFUL LIFE
the "A MEANINGFUL LIFE" series is a non Religious, Non Enterprise look at life and meaning, written with the hope of getting you to a life of pure Joy, real Happiness and Satisfaction with your own life, regardless of your faith and economic profile.
It does not intend to preach, but where necessary it will. At the end, the desired result is that from this series you will pick up the tools to give your life greater meaning, and live a more satisfying existence.
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